I enjoyed both of their company over the next few hours, but afterwards, I was hardly able to stand.

After that, the rest is history. We ended up messing around. Over the course of a year, it happened a few times. The dude is married now and so am I. To me, it doesn’t mean you are gay if you experiment.” Though it might seem counterintuitive, being in a swinging relationship might make you feel more connected to your partner because you’re open about everything you dream about and want, without worrying about being judged. This not only improves your sex life, but builds your chemistry and intimacy, too.I never really did something with another guy but I did use to watch two dudes I served with [in the military] mess around in the woods.

Finally, being able to tell your partner why you're interested in an open relationship is important. Be prepared that your partner may take this personal or that you are not satisfied with the sexual relationship. Having the skills to articulate and communicate your desires without creating blame is important. Show your partner the research you've done and what you've learned about yourself. Once there is an agreement to open the relationship, creating a set of rules to follow is key. This builds trust, respect, and boundaries. It also shows unity in the relationship." Sex parties are events where people are allowed to participate in sexual activity with others, often in view of the other attendees. Sometimes called ‘play’ parties, they’re a way for people to explore their sexuality and meet like-minded people who share the same kinks and fetishes. The act of ‘sharing’ your partner, defying cultural norms, embracing taboos and trying something new and risky is bound to deepen your intimate connection if it goes well. Many of the couples I work with report that they feel closer to their partner after a consensually non-monogamous encounter.” Typically during a swinging agreement, it is two couples agreeing to swap partners. But the person you go home with? Your girlfriend or wife. So above everything else that happens — your sexual performance or pleasure or your new partner’s — you have your main squeeze at the top of the priority list. You both want to ensure the other feel safe and is enjoying themselves.

Swinging, which is sometimes referred to as ‘the lifestyle,’ is a form of ethical non-monogamy where both partners consent to a non-monogamous relationship with agreed upon rules to keep the primary relationship healthy, sex and relationship therapist Courtney Geter, LMFT says. “Swingers are typically heterosexual couples and individuals with a variety of forms of ‘swapping’ or exchanging partners.”