Ask Me His Name: Learning to live and laugh again after the loss of my baby

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I thought I knew Elle’s story really well from social media but after reading this I feel like it’s opened my eyes to so much more. Let’s talk about it, and let them heal openly, and don’t make them bury it or hide it, because it’s the route to losing your mind pretty quickly if you try and hide it. I will never say the auto response of “I’m sorry for your loss” when I hear of a parent who has lost a child.

There were some very relatable parts but although the author repeatedly refers to everyone grieving differently, much of the content is also quite sneering/judgmental of those who do grieve differently to her, despite her having to go through much of what she judges in others to get to the place where she can be what she views as unendingly positive (I’d query this). This was clearly a labour of love, and no doubt writing it has been part of the therapeutic recovery process for the author. All sponsored and paid posts will always be clearly stated as such, but, as always, I only ever include brands, services and products that I absolutely love.Just a few hours later, they woke to find him cold and unresponsive, and the happiest day of Elle's life had turned into every parent's worst nightmare. In this honest and hopeful exploration of mothering, Elle shows us how she navigated a parenthood no one had prepared her for. Although I’ve never been in this mother’s position, i truly believe the book had given people an insight into the affects losing a child has on someone. How are you feeling’ … We talk about cancer really freely because we know it’s so common, and everybody knows the story of someone who has had cancer, and hopefully come out the other side, so we’re far more relaxed as a society to be able to talk about it and support people. So she’d followed me on Instagram, she’d read my other posts, and [she asked me] would I ever consider writing a book?

In the UK, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss, but conversations about the heartbreakingly frequent experience are few and far between. I literally went from room to room just doing that, and taking photos of it and putting it on Instagram, not with the intention of starting a blog at all, just because I needed it for my own sanity. She said, you know, ‘I want you to put as much of your humour into it, and I literally want it to be as if you were talking to a friend’. I have never experienced loss of a baby but this opened my eyes to how very British we all are and how awkward people can be around the subject. Ask Me His Name is a moving account of Elle's pregnancy, Teddy's life, and what happens when a mother leaves a hospital with empty arms.I chose this book to educate myself how to better support the bereaved/bereaving families I work with. I knew a little of Elle’s story and how she lost her son, Teddy at just 3 days old but didn’t know the full circumstances around his birth and his loss. Part of what the book is about, is to educate as much as we can, so maybe down the line, I’m saving other people from having to go through those emotions.